Devotion - Translating Attraction Success Into Relationship Success

In a relationship, I've seen many fights and upsets because our partner doesn't seem to be committed to us in the way we are committed to them. Why is this so, and how can we turn the tides in our favour? Well, in this article, I will discuss my experience with utter commitment and devotion to one person, and how that has transformed my understanding of human relationships.

The Cocktail Of Commitment

I assume after many years of approaching women, you would be very confident to say that you have a strong amount of abundance. From this vantage point, I would like to point out to you that there is no such thing as abundance. Abundance of what? Sex? Partnership? Care?

Commitment can only exist when we see that we have no choice. The lack of choice can only come when we are evaluating the individual not for what they can do for us, but the basis of who they are. Is there a direct replica of who you are? Therefore, commitment begins with an unwavering decision that no matter what the other person does, we stay committed to their happiness and wellbeing.

Needy people might scratch their heads and ask, "wont this lead to others taking advantage of me?" This can only happen when you are expecting something in return for what you have gave. If you expect something in return, you are not committed to the wellbeing of the other person, you are committed to the wellbeing of yourself.

When your commitment to another person's wellbeing becomes overwhelming, this turns into devotion. To a logical individual, devotion seems like a stupid thing to do. Why would anyone give up and sacrifice what they consider dear to them and offer it to someone else?

But from my experience, when I am truly in love with someone, I always felt like I have never done enough for that person. Reality may not permit my involvement with those who do not accept the nature of my authenticity, but that need not mean that I have not extended my compassion in a way in which they have found acceptable.

Attention And Acceptance As The Basis Of Love

Attention and acceptance is the same word. When we call a person unaccepting, another way we can describe his bevaiour is just selective attention. We naturally pay attention to things that interests and serves us. Unfortunately, you are also aware of what the "natural" leads to.

When your attention is deployed in this manner, it will naturally become self-serving or needy. But when your attention if full and total, ironically it becomes acceptance and love. By transcending your five senses and disconnecting their associations from your survival, you can start evaluating every situation just as it is.

When you evaluate a person just as they are, compassion is the natural result of your attention. You will be able to see why this person is the way that they are, the things that they have went through that creates the net result. So very naturally, you would like to do something for them as a result.

This typically only happens with people you have identified with. It is easier to offer unwavering attention towards someone or something which you have already established as a part of yourself. Expanding this sense of identity to include and empathize with suffering outside your realm of experience requires a good deal of patience and understanding.

The Dynamics Of A Devoted And Secure Relationship

In my relationship, I tend to notice that once devotion is active across both peoples, communication tends to reduce significantly. When I first experienced this, my pickup training made me want to create emotional stimulation. But in a secure relationship, this is exactly what you should not do.

It took me a little bit of time with varying peoples to feel secure in our bond. Most people circumvent this period of vulnerability by acting like they dont care about the other person, or reducing the influence of what their significant others have in their own minds so that they can stay protected.

However, this is unavoidable in any relationship. You will have the burst of excitement in the intial few months, then reality will show itself and fights will start to occur. Through a little bit of hardship and mature communication, usually you'll stabilize to an equilibrium of compromise where the seed sows into fruit.

Become Hyper Feminine

The key to a successful relationship is not masculinity, but femininity. The feminine is the only gateway you have into successful human relationships. Why? Because nobody says no to a mother. If you practically function as a mother for someone beyond physical appearance and whats under your pants, nobody can refuse love for what it represents.

The only way one can become feminine is surrender. Surrender of what? Surrender of your ego. What is ego? Everytime you think about yourself, thats ego. "What about me?", thats ego. If you can surrender your ego for someone or something, whatever that is will become what you describe as love.

The food you eat does not have an ego. It does not decide that because this person has diabetes, it will grow legs and run away from that person. The air does not have an ego, it does not choose which lungs to enter. This is why nature is referred to as "Mother nature."

When you surrender your ego to someone or something, you return to the truth of this universe. That we are all one, which is life. When you identify as life, then there is no such thing as you or the other. Whatever you do for yourself, that is what you will do for another person.

What Is Femininity?

My understanding of masculinity and femininity has grown significantly after 2 years of meditation. The best description of what is femininity is, is the energy of creation. Anything that has a physical form to it, from atoms to cosmic bodies, are the result of femininity.

The masculine describes the space in which all creation sits. Think of it like a sandbox. Without the masculine, the feminine cannot exist. Without the feminine, the masculine will have nothing within. It is two sides of the same coin, it just depends which side you emphasise.

Let's emphasise that reality which we call thats feminine. First of all, you are a result of femininity, because you exist physically in this universe. Everything that you see in the outside world is also femininity, because they exist as a physical form just like you. The conclusion we can make is that we are all one of the same, as we are created from the same force.

Why Results Is The Consequence Of Femininity?

In one way or the other, success demands that we first upfront the commitment, work and emotional labour in the hopes of creating the results we want. Is the result guaranteed? Of course we would like to think that way, but any person with a working mind will find that to be absurd.

The trust and devotion needed for one to achieve the results he wants in life is undeniably feminine.

1. Only for those who considers themselves a "failure" lacks the trust within themselves to see through that their desires as a blazing success.
2. Only those who consider themselves a "procrastinator" lacks the self worth to see within themselves the beauty of creation
3. Only those who consider themselves "lost" lack the courage to walk a path before knowing where it leads.
4. Only those who consider themselves "powerless" have forgotten that every great creation first existed as nothing more than a vision in someone's mind
5. Only those who consider themselves "unworthy" fail to recognize that creation itself has already deemed them worthy enough to participate in it.

What results we create is out of our hands. But what is in our hands is that what we work on will be a reflection of who we are. To create success is nothing more than working upon the fundamentals of who we are. If we are loving, everything we touch will become loving.

How To Execute Upon The Knowledge Here?

This articles describe many factors in which internally, you will need to be ready to become bigger than yourself. A person who have yet to form the interest of thinking beyond himself, or in other words feels a sense of lack of wholeness within himself is unable to execute this successfully.

Step 1: Identify A Woman Who Makes You Bigger Than Youself

The best partner for you is not the one who is the most attractive, or the one who can do the most for you. These material factors are important, but after a few months you will find these things less important than you thought it was when you got into the relationship.

The best woman is always the woman that makes you a better version of yourself. Someone who can help you think beyond yourself, its almost like the feeling of having a child. If you can empty yourself into that person, and feel like there is even more to do, that is the perfect choice.

Step 2: Write Down What A Loving Person Does

Spend one hour on a notepad and determine what love means to you. What does a loving person look like? How does a loving person behave? How does a loving person act and think? Once you have created this master list, then you should strive to become the person you have described.

This exercise will force you to become the person you want to become. Once you become that person, accordingly the people who have the aspiration to become the same person will respond. Attraction is now just who you are, rather than a bag of tricks and techniques.

Step 3: Surrender Your Control

Love does not mean you must do what I want. Love means they can do whatever they want, and we will still love them. Too many have been brainwashed by social media and k-pop movies about what love should symbolize. If love is within your heart, whatever you do is a loving action. It is as simple as that, the question just become whether love is within your heart.

Conclusion

The last and missing cocktail for most people who are very good at attracting women and opportunities in general is primarily just devotion and surrender. I hope that you can take some time and work upon this, to give without expecting anything in return. According to your capacity, you give wherever you can.

Slowly, you will gather this mysterious power, like everything in life is supporting you. I cant quite describe it, but about two weeks ago, I started living life as I was a part of it, not as I was against it. The moment I touched the feminine energy which underpins reality, my life got a lot easier. My wish for you is the same.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.