Suitcase of Sparks - Using Radiance To Attract Woman

In this article, we will discuss the augmentations you will have to make in your approach to dating when you're at the end of your journey. We can say that this is how we would use all the skills and experiences we gained to find and open the treasure chest at the end of the rainbow. Let's begin.

Pre-Requisites Before Doing This

What I will be speaking here is advanced. If you are yet to complete the Hero's Journey, this is not for you. The reason for saying so is because you're unable to do these methods and there is a very high likelihood of error when you're attempting to implement which will cause a lot of unecessary suffering and fustration.

Here we are doing an attraction stratergy that will land you a wife that you love, whom loves you back and enhances your life till the day you die. It will be devoid of survival and ensures that we attract using connection. So, I will discuss a few important growth markers that tells me a person is ready for this.

• Neediness Approaching Zero

The easiest way for you to know when your neediness is approaching zero is to ask yourself this question: "Suppose that everyone simply vanished, will I be happy and complete just like this?" If you still have an impulse for sex, you feel lonely or whatever else, you still have some development to go.

• Interest In Spirituality

Spirituality only happens when a person cannot find fulfillment in the material domain. So if you have zero interest in spirituality, you are the type of person who still thinks that your goals and material achievements will bring you happiness. You still have some development to go, because you'll treat people transactionally without spirutuality.

• Adverse To Using Pickup

There is a certain sense of emotional avoidance to doing pickup once you realized that you're a rat running in circles. I like using this growth marker because it tells me that a person have a more "team-oriented mindset" rather than a "me-oriented mindset." This is significant because you'll never be happy in a relationship if you cannot compromise on your own survival.

• Doing Something Else With Your Life

Maybe you have moved on to fix other areas of your life. Usually this only happens when growth is reaching it's maximum and the law of diminishing returns is punishing him hard. This tells me that a person have already learnt whatever they needed to learn in the dating domain.

• Understands Himself Deeply

This experience should have totally transformed and changed your life. Your understanding of yourself are no longer bound by belief and ideology but deeply rooted in your own experiences. Easy way to know is to ask: "Do I understand my preferences for how I want to live my life?" and "Is this understanding validated based on experience?"

Do you need all of these pre-requisites to do this? Yes. Can all of these pre-requisites be developed within the domain of pickup? The answer is no. Humans are multifaceted. If you lack a critical progression marker you will have to develop yourself in some other domain of life and return to dating later.

Unlearning Everything

Virtually everything you learnt about pickup is unsuitable for the objective of a high-growth, loving and supportive relationship that can propel you to new heights. So we will be debunking why this is so, because I know that there would be some melanchonic attachment to the old ways that brought you so much growth.

First, pickup works by manipulating emotions. Specifically, it works by enhancing the neediness of others and presenting yourself in such a way to display a wide variety of common needs women want to fulfill within themselves in a relationship.

So this puts you off on the wrong footing, because you're essentially enslaving your girlfriend/wife. Why would you ever want a person to be needy for you? If you truly love a person, you would want them to blossom and achieve their full potential. So we cannot countinue this. I will explain how to change your approach in a moment.

Secondly, pickup makes you learn very undesirable habits that is not productive to a relationship. There is a subtle superiority frame PUAs typically hold because its their crutch to attract women. Negs, teasing, emotional unavaliability and your facade will damage her trust long term. These will take some effort to unlearn because they are all stuck within your unconscious.

Third, pickup is repulsive to any high consciousness woman. People more developed than you will always know you're full of shit because they were once just like you in the past. So if you want to be in a high-quality relationship with a woman more capable than you, humility needs to be in your heart.

Spirituality will naturally make you unlearn these things as your maturity rise. Then, you'll just start to naturally see where you were childish in the way you acted before. We will entrust the clean up process to your growing self awareness but the 3 pointers should be enough to help you see what is wrong.

Is this to say that your journey is invalid and a waste of time? Of course not. The value of your experience is not in the techniques you learnt, but it is about who you have became. It was about becoming socially incompetent to competent, anxious to secure etc. Techniques was just a medium in which you used to explore who you are.

In fact, transformation is not possible without transforming above the entire process itself! Ever notice that transformation is always depicted as circles and loops? You end up exactly where you began just with a new and profound perspective that can only be understood by going into the entire loop. This is the most valuable thing you have done for yourself.

So as we mourn for our old ways, it is time that we look up and see that we have a new life. Only from this total position of non-needness, self-satisfaction and acceptance in others can you truly be able to unlock the chest of gold that was waiting for you the day you decided to begin this journey years ago. Excited? Let me show you how.

How We Are Going To Meet Women

The way we will meet women will be drastically different compared to how we did it in the past. First is that we change our mode from active to passive. We no longer take the initiative to make things happen romantically. That will be up to the woman, which we will explain in a moment.

Every interaction should be centered around genuine friendship. If a friendship can be established, there will always be connection on some level. This is especially true for PUAs because we can easily make friends with anyone, there is no neediness component when we make friends.

So out of your friends, who finds you attractive and who doesn't depends on your authenticity. Women think very long-term if you do not manipulate their emotions, so just be yourself and see who comes and approaches us. This should be rather easy since who finds you attractive should be rather obvious.

We establish genuine friendship when we ourselves can fully accept a person unconditionally. Only in environments of acceptance, can a person be willing to be vulnerable around others. Vulnerability means a person temporarily drops their boundaries againts you, which means it is trust and love.

This is a huge responsibility. Someone entrust and loves us for who we are. This is not a small thing. In our unconditional acceptance of them, they have unconsciously accepted us as well. This is the basis of a genuine connection, and most women will be unable to unconditionally accept you.

Action steps:

1. Do other stuff in your life and pursue other goals.
2. Don't actively date using "methods." Just be yourself.
3. Be social around others, be unconditionally accepting of them.
4. Then, observe who unconditionally accepts us for who we are.
5. From there, we can form a friendship on the basis of trust and love.

When a person focuses on his capability to love others, his life becomes a suitcase of sparks. Observants can't help but to be curious about what's going on. When they open the suitcase, the natural conclusion is "I want to be like this person."

How We Will Escalate

In the beginning, you escalated using manipulation. The exercise of conscious tricks and tactics. Next, you escalated using joy, by being fun and a value add in other people's emotions. Lastly, in attraction 3.0, you will escalate using devotion and presence alone.

How we can do so is that we totally dissolve our own boundaries and reach out to touch the boundaries of the other. How to do so is already explained here. And that's all. This is all you have to do. By holding love in your heart, women will escalate themselves when they feel comfortable.

There is 2 things that will determine the speed of escalation. First is the amount of love you exhibit. The more you love the faster it will go, meaning the less boundaries you put up, the more vulnerable and trusting the enviorement will become for the woman to open herself up.

The second thing is the amount of boundaries she has. If she is the wounded type and no previous self-development was attempted to heal themselves, you will be acting as a catalyst for their own healing journey. Once the boundaries become thin enough, she will naturally want to be with you.

Again to add that this is devoid of manipulation. Just on the levels of your intentions alone people can see through your corruption. This is an incredibly honest signal which is why I added a lot of pre-requisites before starting the article.

Assuming you meet the requirements, generally there are two unconscious mistakes that will damage your progression. First is that you develop attachment. Comfort is the natural emotion you will feel and after awhile it might become a type of dependence. So you have to watch out for that and detach when that happens.

Secondly is that you are uncalibrated. If you are a genuine source of love she will never pull away. So there would be moments where her boundaries dissolve so drastically that she needs a little time away from you to take a breather and detach on her end. We must appropriately allow this to happen by distancing ourselves as well. When she is ready, she will return.

Recipriocation

How long does this process take? It could be months, years or possibly forever until you drop dead. This is not a transactional processs, by doing this you have already imparted the greatest gift you can offer someone directly in the beginning.

It doesn't matter what the girl does, whether she wants to be with us, she wants to friendzone us or whatever. If your love is sincere, she will always see you as a positive influence in her life. This type of love and trust like this is earned, and will last a lifetime.

The results you will get for facilitating this is so great that I do not know how to describe with my words. This is not only the greatest gift you could offer someone, but it is the greatest fulfilment you could discover in dating and relationships.

So you would really need to see, what is it that you want in life. Are you more of a solo person? Or are you more of a team person? The relationship is guaranteed, using this method you can have a relationship with the entire world if you want. It is as potent and fulfilling as any traditional relationship in an infinite scale.

So whether you want to have kids, enjoy life with another person, or be alone, this is a personal choice you have to make. Remember, the quality of life does not change, this is the only how you want organize your survival and your preferences for how you want to live life.

Relationship is defined as the positive impact you make with others. How fulfilling this relationship will be depends on our capability to love. In doing so, we have became a suitcase of sparks in which anyone can access and open.

The Choice Is For The Recipient

What the object of our love wants to do with us is their choice. Whether they accept our invitation to be in our lives or not and end up doing something else is their problem. But if a person chooses to be in our lives by conscious choice, disregarding and setting aside their own survival instincts, this is truly a relationship of real choice that transcends survival.

The entire FriendlyWrenChilling library have been preparing you slowly, through basic self-development like approaching women up to here, it is my wish and my blessing that you will be able to achieve this at least once in your life.

If your love is beginning to flower, you might be able to do this to one person. If you love is developed, multiple people at once. Once your love becomes infinite, you will be able to love and hold a relationship with the entire universe.

That's it for me. Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling