Setting The Stage For Transformation

Pickup is actually an advanced self-improvement vehicle. In it's difficulty, it is just behind becoming enlightened. Pickup is harder compared to entrepreneurship or getting your fitness in order. Just think about that!

So I believe that there is a lot of basic self development "holes" begineers neglect before getting into pickup. I will be addressing them in this article. This is mandatory to do before you start getting into pickup.

Worldview And Identity

A lot of what basic self development is trying to do is to get you to move away from social conditioning and conformity and take charge of your life. Once you buy into this idea then the next question is what to do.

This is not an easy answer. You will need to go out into the world and find out what you are passionate about. You will discover your likes and dislikes, things are are specifically suited towards your psychological profile.

From that experience, you will build a worldview of who you are. You will feel fear because you are detaching yourself from the values of the mainstream in search for what is truly authentic, specifically for you.

This soul searching will take about 1.5 years. Certainly not a short period of time. In this period of time, you want to explore as many things as possible. Try everything you might be interested in. Leave nothing unexplored.

Show Off What You're Doing

Pick up the skill of photography and document the cool stuff you're doing. When you look back at your Instagram feed you should go, "wow, I truly lived an amazing life." Slowly build up to 30 high quality posts.

For example on my personal Instagram, I have pictures of me scuba diving, rock climbing, rooftopping, backpacking and high quality potraits of myself. I use a DSLR and lightroom to correct my images after the fact.

Make it like a little game you play. Not to be photogenic or trying to "show off" but its a way to motivate yourself and to track your progress. In a short timeframe like 2 months, nothing seems to have changed much, but looking back over years it will feel very significant.

Also make your Instagram a hub for DHVs. When you do begin in your pickup journey you will be giving out your Instagram a lot. It helps if women have an insight into your life on what they can expect to experience.

Just Get Your Life In Order

These massive transformation stories by people who went to the gym, became mega entrepreneurs and pickup artists who changed thier social life are people who had significant "prep" beforehand.

They somehow got their life in order, or just naturally have their lives in order. At the bare minimum, you should be going to the gym, have a stable income and be able to follow a routine before trying to go for any sort of massive transformation.

Remember, the bar is very low here. With just a little effort with very basic self-development (think of 7 effective habits of effective people) you can wipe the floor with the average man and become "above average."

"Just get your life in order" is the mindset you should have if you're absolutely at rock bottom. If you have a severe addiction problem or anything else similar, the last thing you should be thinking about is PUA.

One Step At A Time

Consistency is the way to do it. It might really suck a lot right now, but remember day after day, a little action a day keeps the suicide away. Just make sure you do something daily that makes your life a little better.

It will pass. You wont be suffering forever. In fact, one day you will look back and say, "Wow, this is something that has changed my life for the better" or along those lines.

Your suffering now sets up the stage for your future potential and what you have to offer the world. Every human is special and have something unique to offer to this world. Do not look down on yourself. Figure out what that is, and make it your lifes passion.

My Belief For You

I believe that every person have a unique and special talent only available to them. Even if no one sees it, I see it. I know you can change the world one day for the better if you just tap into your creativity and potential.

That's why FriendlyWrenChilling articles are free. I believe in you so much that I actively waste my time and effort producing life-transforming information for anyone to enjoy.

Yes, it might feel like you have nothing to offer right now. But deep within you something is there waiting for you to discover. You just need a medium (like getting more experience) to uncover your unique talents and abilities.

You are a unique individual who has something unique to offer the world. You must not give up today and realize this potential. It doesn't matter if it takes 30 or 40 years, you just have to do it within your lifetime.

Significant transformations have been made in under 10 years. You don't need 30 or 40 years. You are going to die eitherway, so at the very least, allow yourself to experience this beautiful magic before you depart from this planet.

Don't Try To Be Smart

If you are at this stage, you will understand very little about the domain you're getting into. Keep an open mind and try everything. Only use your experience to filter what is right or wrong, not your ideas and biases.

Life is full of traps, and if you're not careful you might just fall into one. Especially in these kinds of counter-intuitive domains, by its very definition, a trap is something that seems alluring but will cost you dearly in the end.

The best ideology is no ideology. Open-mindedness will save you when entering into these trappy domains. Your attitude should be of a scientist, "that sounds reasonable, I will try it and validate it through my experience today."

Conclusion

Explore reality quickly and discover your passions. Develop a worldview based on your experience which is not based off mainstream and societal influences. The best ideology is no ideology, keep your mind open. Set the foundations of your life through basic self-development so that you can do something big in the future.

That's it for me. Best of luck. Please check out my other posts and practice everything holistically. Send me an email if you want a specific topic written. You can see "coaching" to see if I have room to onboard new students.

Cheers,
FriendlyWrenChilling.